How to recover from Codependency?
To be codependent is to be out of touch with your feelings, needs and desires. It’s in a way a loss of identity.
What is Codependency?
Codependency is a mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual reliance on a partner, friend, or family member.
Consider the following example: Emma listened to her boyfriend talk about his distress and problems at work. That night she can’t fall asleep because she is overthinking her boyfriend’s problems. She starts to feel his feelings rather than her own.
These 6 Things are the Early Stages of Typical Codependency!
- A sense of “walking on eggshells” to avoid conflict with the other person.
- Feeling sorry for the other person even when they hurt you.
- Feeling the need to check in with the other person and/or ask permission to do daily tasks.
- Often being the one who apologizes — even if you have done nothing wrong.
- Struggling to find any time for yourself, especially if your free time consistently goes to the other person.
- Doing anything for the other person, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Reasons of Codependency
Generally speaking, like many psychological traits, codependent tendencies have a lot to do with our childhood experiences. We are most likely to become codependent if we had parents who were either overly protective or under protective. A need to satisfy those around them may also develop in people, who were raised in unhealthy household environment. They may seek emotional fulfillment from the satisfaction of other people.
Another reason why codependency may arise is a relationship with a person who has an addiction. The person with codependency may take on a “caretaker” role for their partner and loose the feeling of self over time.
Feel like you are loosing yourself over others? Therapist Deborah can help you rebuild your sense of self
The first step in reducing codependent tendencies is to focus on self-awareness. This can be done on your own, of course, but therapy can help you realize why you rely on the other person so much. Cognitive therapist Deborah is committed to helping you build and maintain healthy relationships.
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